Why doesn’t someone get healed? That is an ancient question without an adequate answer. Sometimes God simply has more important things to do in a person’s life than heal their body. For secret reasons only He knows (Deut. 29:29), sometimes the physical healing is set aside so He may work on the person’s spiritual needs. Sometimes He chooses to show His strength through our weaknesses. For whatever reason, it seems Paul had difficulty writing. It may have been his eyesight (Gal. 4:15), or a weakness in his hands that caused him to sign his epistles with large letters (Gal. 6:11). But it seems he was never healed.
For me, the problem with some Pentecostal teaching about healing comes when people say, “Well, if you just had enough faith, God would heal you.” Sometimes faith is not the issue. God may deem something better for us and His glory by not healing our bodies. Furthermore, we can often get so focused on our physical healing that we ignore our spiritual health.
Another problem with some Pentecostal teaching is that ANY sickness is of the devil and we are never supposed to be sick. It you take this line of reasoning to the ultimate end, whenever someone dies then they were not in the will of God. What a bunch of bovine scatology! I had one person tell me that it was not God’s will that a member of our church died of cancer. I wanted to ask her to give me a list of acceptable causes of death so we would know how to pray. You’ll be glad to know I bit my tongue. It bled, but I kept my mouth shut.
I believe that the gift of healing, miracles, tongues, wisdom, faith, etc. are still in effect today. I’ve seen it, experienced it, done it. To say it doesn’t exist and faded out with the Apostles is like saying man didn’t really walk on the moon. However, I do know that God chooses not to heal some people. All I can do then is continue to believe that God knows what He is doing. I continue to trust in His ways that are beyond my understanding.
So there you have it — an answer without an answer. I know it helps and I know it doesn’t. The questions remain, the suffering of your friend remains, but so does the sovereignty of God. I think it takes more faith to believe in God when we don’t get what we pray for than it does when God grants our request. Our children are happy with us and know we love them when we give them what they ask for, but pout and wonder why we don’t love them when we say “no”. WE KNOW our “no” is based on our wisdom and love for them, but they don’t see it that way. One day, when they are parents, they will understand. Likewise, one day when we are face to face it will all make sense. Meanwhile, I choose to believe in His love.